Trust Tip 32: Answering “Why Should We Choose You?

It happens most overtly in a sales presentation: “So tell us, Mr. Jones, why should we choose you?”

Words vary. You may recognize:

  • What makes you folks different, what sets you apart? Or,

  • Why should we believe you’re different from all the others?

When a client or customer asks that question, many things are going on.

On the emotional front, “Why should we choose you?” is almost always spoken as a challenge—an aggressive act, an invitation to spar and to prove your worth. Which in turn means the presumed relationship is combative or competitive.

On a purely logical level, the question is about differentiation. Furthermore, it presumes that the answer can be given verbally, in a few sentences.

And finally, it’s a sucker’s game. Think honestly now: when was the last time you heard a seller answer that question so well that the customer sat back and said, “wow, that really is great! I guess you’ve got the job!” The truth is, people don’t buy because of differentiation—they buy because you can solve their problem.

So—what do you do with a combative partner who’s challenging you to a duel using weapons of his choice, and that he will disavow no matter how well you play?

The answer is, opt out of the game. Don’t meet fear with fear; don’t engage in a competition; don’t accept that one-liners and differentiation are the real agenda. Instead, respond with direct truth and client focus.

Here’s what it sounds like.

    “Why should you choose us? At this stage, I don’t know why; it would be arrogant of me to claim I do know. In fact, it’s even possible that you shouldn’t choose us. It depends on some key questions, which I’ve brought along to discuss with you.

    “But first, to answer the spirit of your question, 74% of our customers tell us they chose us for one of two reasons. 53% said it was because of our after-sales service. The other 21% cited ease of integration. Those were the main reasons our customers gave.

    “Your reasons may or may not map those of our other customers—your situation is unique. One big driver seems to be the level of first-line customer interaction our customers have. Perhaps if we talk about your level of first-line customer interaction, it will become clear to all of us what is and isn’t attractive to you about our solutions.”

In responding this way, you first acknowledge an obvious truth—any blather about why a brand new customer should buy from you is nothing but BS anyway, and even if it were true, would be utterly unconvincing. So—tell the truth.

By answering the customer’s question literally—what are the reasons they should buy from you?—you show respect.

By offering actual answers to the actual question, you validate the customer’s question, and show you have real data to answer it. (BTW—I hope it goes without saying you actually do need real data).

By offering to engage in discussion, you indirectly state the only way customers make serious decisions—by engaging in dialogue. So—tell the truth and start the dialogue.

Finally, by seriously entertaining the proposition that your service may actually not fit 100% of the customers out there, you get points for speaking the truth, and save both you and the customer and lot of cost and pain trying to pretend otherwise.

When asked, “Why should we buy from you?”—tell the truth.

8 replies
  1. Philip J. McGee
    Philip J. McGee says:


    I learned at Xerox way back in the 60’s that questions like “Why should we choose you?” were buying signals and, therefore, indicated that one was at a very, very critical time in the selling cycle. 

    I’ve always agreed with your premise that, at that time, actually all the time, the only answer is the TRUTH.

  2. Charlie (Green)
    Charlie (Green) says:

    One of the great things about blogging is that you get great commenters who make you see things you hadn’t seen yourself.

    Cases in point: Phil McGee’s note that this question represents a critical buying signal, hence all the more reason to get it right.

    Case in point: Brian Nick’s comment that the question applies to selling yourself—aka job-interviewing—as much as it does to selling a good or service.

    Thanks guys!

  3. Chris Denny
    Chris Denny says:

    Great Article, Charlie – should be passed on as required reading for some salespeople.  Thank you for offering a specific answer to a tough and general question. 

  4. Charles H. Green
    Charles H. Green says:


    Great comment. If someone asks you for one reason why they should not select you, you should give them a primary reason why a past customer has chosen someone else instead of you.  

    Make it real, make it the truth.  You are not, after all, the perfect solution for everyone.  But if you’re open and honest about it, then when you are the right choice, they will believe you.


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