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Why I Write About Sales

Some of you read this blog because it’s about selling. Most of you read it because it’s about trust—perhaps despite it also being about selling. Let me address the latter group on why the former is so important.

Sales is the new marketing.

Nearly 50 years ago, Ted Levitt (Marketing Mypia, Harvard Business Review) crystallized the shift from producer-oriented to customer-oriented. It put marketing front and center, and broadened strategy industry definitions.

We’re now on the cusp of a shift at least as big.

Companies started as safe havens for doing business. You couldn’t trust anyone out there, so you vertically and horizontally integrated. If you made cars, you made most of the things that went into them. That way you controlled budgets, salaries, cost accounting, promotions, quality, and processes. The corporate form made possible massive scale economies over the last hundred years.

What’s changing now—look to The World is Flat, or Wikinomics , or How We Compete —is that companies no longer must own the means of production in order to produce. Increasingly goods and services can be outsourced. This trend dates back to 1910, but the internet, high speed telecomm and other IT services have vastly accelerated it.

Further, those who can integrate services outsourced by others have access to greater scale economies in those services than did the original companies.

Fast forward to a world where transactions that used to happen within companies now happen between them. Outsource a few functions; all transactions that were internal become external. Spin off a supply business; more internal transactions become external. The new model for business is to focus on your world-class strengths, and buy everything else from those who are world-class in their own areas.

That increases sales events by orders of magnitude. Add to that increases in stock ownership volatility, job-hopping, strategic alliances, decentralization and empowerment and you have vastly more people involved in the “sales” function more broadly defined.

Let’s define sales: it is the activity of personally influencing other people or businesses in a direction that is mutually beneficial.

In the old world, this “personal influencing” was done disproportionately on a vertical employment basis—bosses and subordinates. We worried about things like span of control, giving and receiving feedback, and the secret sauce that separated “leaders” from, I guess, followers. Call that the vertical model.

Today, the world’s looking more horizontal. Transactions, and relationships, are tilting to those between equals, with no reporting relationships, if not working for other organizations then working in matrix organizations within a company.

The world of business is less about monolithic vertical companies competing against each other. It’s becoming far more a model of inter-company commerce—transactions between businesses, and people.

That looks like “selling.”

Selling is the point where one organization meets another—and where economic value is acknowledged. It’s getting more and more common.

To make a vertical world work, you need power and control.

To make a horizontal world work, you need trust.

Trusted relationships between those who transact business have always been the best form of sales. Now sales is becoming the paradigm model for inter-company relationships.

That’s why selling is so important for all of us.

 

Trust Tip 35: Reciprocity, Sales and Suicide Hot Lines

In his classic best-seller Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion,  Robert Cialdini lists the main forces or dynamics which explain how we come to be persuaded to believe what another tells us or asks us to do.

Chief among them is the idea of reciprocity: if you do for me, I will do for you.

For those in sales or advice-giving roles, It’s tempting to read this as a suggestion to exchange favors.  But it would be wrong.

Michael Lindemann tells of his experience on a suicide prevention hotline in Manhattan.  Earnest volunteers, eager to help those in arguably the greatest need, must be trained to contradict their instincts.  Those instincts are to persuade and convince the person of the value of continued life.

Turns out, those instincts are what drive jumpers to jump.  The average call lasts twenty minutes—that is, if you spend the first ten minutes listening, which is what volunteers are trained to do.  Listen, then offer advice.  Only then. Reciprocity.  If you listen to me, I will listen to you.

Thomas Friedman (New York Times columnist, author The World is Flat),  said in his commencement address at Williams College in 2005,  "people often ask me how I, an American Jew, have been able to operate in the Arab/Muslim world for 20 years, and my answer to them is always the same. The secret is to be a good listener… Never underestimate how much people just want to feel that they have been heard; once you have given them that chance, they will then hear you."  Reciprocity.  If you listen to me, I will listen to you.

John Gottman, author of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, says “understanding must precede advice. You have to let your partner know that you fully understand and empathize with the dilemma before you suggest a solution.”  Reciprocity. Let me know that you have heard me, and I will then listen to you advice.

Reading Cialdini, it’s hard to doubt that the principle of reciprocity is at the heart of trust, influence, and successful selling.

What’s easy to miss is the most common and powerful form of reciprocity—listening.

Want to persuade/sell/influence someone? Then stop trying to persuade/sell/influence them.  Just listen.

Then let nature take its course.

Built to Last—Not

In 1994, Jerry Porras and Jim Collins wrote “Built to Last--” which it certainly has, ranking #935 on Amazon, lo these thirteen years later. (Collins’ later “Good to Great” ranks even higher). The aim was to diagnose “landmark,” “outstanding,” and “exceptional” companies (adjectives from the bookflaps).

Almost all great books get something very right. In this case, it was the characteristic of “visionary” that they identified. The “vision thing” is as important as ever.

But often, even great books don’t age well. Time reveals a flaw in the foundation, maybe not critical, but a source of confusion—something just not quite right, something that begins over time to annoy.

In this case—it’s the title itself.

The book picks twelve matching pairs of companies—e.g. Westinghouse vs GE, Merck vs. Pfizer, Ford vs. GM—and explores why we think one is better than another. “Better” is also defined in stock market performance terms, so we’ve got long-term value creation as a criterion, along with brand power, and a few others.

Some have critiqued the choices—ditto for "In Search of Excellence"—-for not being valid over time (both Ford and GM today are candidates for the dustbin of history, for example). But the choices stand up pretty well—if your game is to be lasting.

But—what precisely makes “lasting” the criterion for describing a company as landmark, outstanding, or exceptional?

What used to be valuable about continuity over time was:

  • stock market performance for investors
  • employment and economic stability for workers
  • community involvement for host governmental units
  • a dependable brand for consumers.

Let’s see how well these criteria have stood the test of thirteen years.

• The vast majority of owners these days are not shareholders looking to hitch their wagon long term to a particular organization. They are pension and other funds looking for performance, managed by hired guns ready to swap equities at the drop of a quarterly hat, or leave them entirely for the latest hot category, e.g. private equities—hardly bastions of vision.

More importantly—financial instruments have evolved enough that shareholders don’t need to buy a corporate package—they can create the virtually the same performance through a blended mix of instruments reflecting currency, geography, industry and risk profiles. This is not at all a bad thing: it greatly enhances the ability of investors to pick precisely what they want. Which is not, frankly, a lasting organization.

• Employees of a lasting organization are not likely to be well-served unless that organization is participating in most of the global trends affecting its business. Those include outsourcing, globalization and technological investments. Job security at the cost of growing irrelevance is the short-term opiate of the unions.

• Community involvement doesn’t necessarily require a sustained physical presence—the core values an organization carries with it ought to be recognizable quickly with a given locality or other community.

• Branding is a funny thing—it is usually the word we use to describe the retail B-to-C feeling we get when we know what a name stands for. But test yourself: who owns Jif Peanut Butter? Skippy? If a brand clearly conveys something over time, we don’t much care about the visionary nature of the company producing it. The consumers of YouTube don’t seem to be terribly concerned about whether it will last into next month—but it was visionary, and it did what consumers wanted, at least yesterday.

The truth is: focusing on “lasting” as an attribute of a company these days is likely to confuse rather than enlighten. The continued existence of a particular corporate organization is a pretty un-inspiring goal, when you think of it.

Ironically, the continued existence of a particularly corporate instantiation probably requires high turnover in shareholders, employees, geographies and even consumers. So who exactly cares if it’s lasting?

The point is not to last. The point is to do great things for all your constituents. Where continued existence helps, great. Otherwise, standing water stagnates. The visionary thing works; but these days, the vision had better be to change, morph, grow, evolve, turnover, shift.

Built to last is not a desirable adjective anymore, it’s likely a critique.

Built to Last—Not

In 1994, Jerry Porras and Jim Collins wrote “Built to Last--” which it certainly has, ranking #935 on Amazon, lo these thirteen years later. (Collins’ later “Good to Great” ranks even higher). The aim was to diagnose “landmark,” “outstanding,” and “exceptional” companies (adjectives from the bookflaps).

Almost all great books get something very right. In this case, it was the characteristic of “visionary” that they identified. The “vision thing” is as important as ever.

But often, even great books don’t age well. Time reveals a flaw in the foundation, maybe not critical, but a source of confusion—something just not quite right, something that begins over time to annoy.

In this case—it’s the title itself.

The book picks twelve matching pairs of companies—e.g. Westinghouse vs GE, Merck vs. Pfizer, Ford vs. GM—and explores why we think one is better than another. “Better” is also defined in stock market performance terms, so we’ve got long-term value creation as a criterion, along with brand power, and a few others.

Some have critiqued the choices—ditto for "In Search of Excellence"—-for not being valid over time (both Ford and GM today are candidates for the dustbin of history, for example). But the choices stand up pretty well—if your game is to be lasting.

But—what precisely makes “lasting” the criterion for describing a company as landmark, outstanding, or exceptional?

What used to be valuable about continuity over time was:

  • stock market performance for investors
  • employment and economic stability for workers
  • community involvement for host governmental units
  • a dependable brand for consumers.

Let’s see how well these criteria have stood the test of thirteen years.

• The vast majority of owners these days are not shareholders looking to hitch their wagon long term to a particular organization. They are pension and other funds looking for performance, managed by hired guns ready to swap equities at the drop of a quarterly hat, or leave them entirely for the latest hot category, e.g. private equities—hardly bastions of vision.

More importantly—financial instruments have evolved enough that shareholders don’t need to buy a corporate package—they can create the virtually the same performance through a blended mix of instruments reflecting currency, geography, industry and risk profiles. This is not at all a bad thing: it greatly enhances the ability of investors to pick precisely what they want. Which is not, frankly, a lasting organization.

• Employees of a lasting organization are not likely to be well-served unless that organization is participating in most of the global trends affecting its business. Those include outsourcing, globalization and technological investments. Job security at the cost of growing irrelevance is the short-term opiate of the unions.

• Community involvement doesn’t necessarily require a sustained physical presence—the core values an organization carries with it ought to be recognizable quickly with a given locality or other community.

• Branding is a funny thing—it is usually the word we use to describe the retail B-to-C feeling we get when we know what a name stands for. But test yourself: who owns Jif Peanut Butter? Skippy? If a brand clearly conveys something over time, we don’t much care about the visionary nature of the company producing it. The consumers of YouTube don’t seem to be terribly concerned about whether it will last into next month—but it was visionary, and it did what consumers wanted, at least yesterday.

The truth is: focusing on “lasting” as an attribute of a company these days is likely to confuse rather than enlighten. The continued existence of a particular corporate organization is a pretty un-inspiring goal, when you think of it.

Ironically, the continued existence of a particularly corporate instantiation probably requires high turnover in shareholders, employees, geographies and even consumers. So who exactly cares if it’s lasting?

The point is not to last. The point is to do great things for all your constituents. Where continued existence helps, great. Otherwise, standing water stagnates. The visionary thing works; but these days, the vision had better be to change, morph, grow, evolve, turnover, shift.

Built to last is not a desirable adjective anymore, it’s likely a critique.

You Empower What You Fear

Non-compete agreements are the topic du jour.

Frank Byrt, in Financial Week, writes that “Companies are blocking more execs from jumping to competitors.

Jay Shepherd continues the discussion with The Rising Noncompete Tide in his blog “Gruntled Employees.” He’s a Boston lawyer with a big specialty in non-competes within employment law. He’s done some original research that indicates a pretty major increase in non-compete litigation in the last several years.

More blogs jumped on the topic: the irrepressible Maureen Rogers at PinkSlip has a compelling first-hand take on the subject.

Here’s my take—I can’t back it up with research, so write in and tell me if you can support or deny it.

Non-compete agreements are the manifestation of sick management thinking. They are symptomatic of failed people management. They give the lie to many companies’ claims that they care about their employees. But worst of all—like throwing water on a grease fire—they produce more of the very thing they were designed to prevent.

They are a poster child for the concept that you empower what you fear.

If you fear employees will rip you off, and set up spying processes—you will get ripped off.

If you fear employees will steal from you, and institute lie detector tests—they will steal (see The Perversity of Measuring Trust)

If you fear your employees will talk to search firms, and tell the receptionist to screen calls—they will talk.

If you fear your employees will take your secrets to a competitor, and force them to sign non-competes—they will try to take secrets to a competitor, and if they can’t do that, they’ll bring on a whole lot of other nasty side effects.

You empower what you fear.

Fear may manifest itself as simple paranoia about losing money. Understandable, but it still drives bad behavior.

It may show up in the form of resentment, or vengeance, or of seeking recompense against someone’s perceived act of “disloyalty.”

I worked for two small firms: one did not have non-competes, and in 25 years never had an employee lawsuit of any kind. The other did use them, and on average was involved in two suits per year with its employees.

The first firm had its own problems, but it did one thing right—it treated people issues as management issues. The second firm treated them as legal issues.

People live up—or down—to expectations. You see it in kids. You see it when you approach a dog—if you fear the dog, it will growl and bark; if you approach in a friendly manner, you get the tail-wag response. In this regard, ich bin ein canine, and so are most other people.

What’s the alternative? Simple.

  • If you really care about the employee who left, then be happy for him/her. If you’re not happy for them, then cut out the crap in your website where it says you believe in people development, because you don’t—you believe in the development of "human capital," an oxymoron. People know the difference. Capital doesn’t.
  • If you’re happy for them but wish they hadn’t left, then find out why they left and fix it before the next one leaves. If you don’t want to fix it, then go buy a lottery ticket. The odds of effectiveness are about the same.
  • Make alumni of the people who leave. Your college didn’t go all resentful on you when you graduated; they didn’t make you sign a non-compete about getting a master’s from another university. And when your college phones you to contribute to the fund years later, you still do! (And if you don’t, it’s because your college needs to read this blog). Think of people who leave as graduating advocates of your company—not as disloyal double agents.
  • Let everyone know that you run the company on the basis of rules 1 through 3 above. And tear up the non-compete forms.

There are of course some valid exceptions, mainly in the hard sciences and tech businesses. But the rest? Marketing execs? Consultants? Bankers? Please.

You empower what you fear.

A basic lesson of trust is that if you trust people, they respond by being worthy of your trust.

Substitute trust for fear. It works.

Trust Amongst the Investment Bankers

And you thought it didn’t exist.

Well, pretty much it doesn’t. But it’s interesting to explore why.

A delightful blog, The Epicurean Dealmaker, dusts off an old paper by Harvard Business School academics Bob Eccles and Dwight Crane, which describes the path of trust failure in the investment banking world.

E.D. summarizes it nicely as follows:

1) Markets for capital and strategy get more diverse and complex, leading to more threats and opportunities

2) Formerly monogamous Company XYZ begins to talk with more than one investment bank to identify, analyze, and take advantage of these market threats and opportunities

3) Investment banks which have never had a shot at breaking into Company XYZ before gladly start lobbing in ideas and golf trips to get XYZ’s business

4) XYZ’s CFO and finance staff get smarter about the markets and cleverer at playing the i-banks off against each other for better deal pricing, better ideas, and better golf trips

5) I-banks begin to see they are getting played and begin to play back, lobbing completely unoriginal Ideas of the Week in on a regular basis on the chance one of them will hit and pestering XYZ’s CFO to let them visit the CEO with A Really Big M&A Idea

6) XYZ’s CFO realizes the i-banks are no longer really paying attention to him and gets pissed, doing everything he can to prevent the i-banks from getting into the CEO’s office and screwing them even harder in pricing negotiations

7) Both XYZ and the i-bankers start bitching to The Wall Street Journal and anyone else who will listen that the other is no longer interested in building relationships, but only wants to do deals

As E.D. suggests, skip steps 1 and 2 and you have the story of private equity.

For the prosaic rest of us, this is the script for your friends on Match.com who bemoan the dearth of relationships (and it’s not just women).

I have also seen this script play out in the paper merchant industry; the brokerage industry; the real estate industry; the commercial banking industry; the consulting industry; the auto supply industry; and a good deal more.

As Step 6 in the progression points out, the end-game is unhappy bitching about how short-term, transactional, and generally untrustworthy the other one is. A crummy ending.

Question 1: at which of the 6 Steps could the provider have done something differently, and turned the cycle toward trust?

Question 2: at which of the 6 Steps could the client have done something differently, and turned the cycle toward trust?

Hint 1: Questions 1 and 2 have the same answer.

Hint 2: The answer rhymes with “all of them.”

Trust and Social Networking

Social networking on the web is hot. Many sites talk about trust. They tell us something about trust in cyberspace—and about trust in general.

Think four archetypes: Zagat’s, Amazon, eBay, and LinkedIn.

1. Zagat’s started off-line. It presents reviews by the "regular folks"—we trust it because the reviewers are presumably unbiased, in a way that commercial directories presumably aren’t. Zagat’s gains trust through clean motives of “people like me.”

2. Amazon has a recommender system—we trust it because we believe their massive databases dependably predict our likes.

3. eBay developed seller ratings. You can trust the person you buy from online because of their reputation among other previous buyers.

3. LinkedIn networks you to others by degrees of separation (a la the Kevin Bacon game) to others. You know Bill, I know you, ergo you can introduce me to Bill’s cousin’s friend. This works on the principle of personal relationships.

The social networks recombine these four types of DNA.

TrustedOpinion.com combines movies, music and restaurant reviews with an “x-degrees of separation” taxonomy. LinkedIn meets Zagat’s.

Crowdstorm.com measures the “buzz” around products, get “points,” and also allows you to rate “trusted” reviewers. LinkedIn meets eBay.

Digg and del.icio.us review content a la eBay meets Amazon—combining massive databases and reputations.

Each type has drawbacks.

1. The “people like me” approach gets hard to sustain at scale; when you get thousands of “people like me,” they aren’t—they’re the crowd.

2. The crowd system—Amazon’s approach of masses of people dependably predicting our likes—depends on large numbers. Can the data be compromised? Sure. See the “let’s make my book #1” schemes, a la American Idol call storming.

3. The eBay-type ratings system is more obviously subject to hacking. See Wired for a good article on hacking reputation sites.

4. The Linked-In model has the great virtue of being based on super-high bandwidth connection—real people we actually know. The trouble is, personal trust has a high decay rate. It’s one thing to ask you to introduce me to your friend; it’s quite another to do so in order to meet his friend.

It’s in this arena that the internet falls down, even laughably, when it tries to promote trust. Consider Opinity and Rapleaf.

From Opinity’s site:

Create a powerful and portable Opinity profile and be trusted! Using your Opinity profile, you can bring your already established reputation to any new site you want. Build your reputation quickly and gain trust.

And you gotta love Rapleaf:

Rapleaf is a portable ratings system for commerce. You can look people up before you buy or sell, and rate them afterwards.
Rate people and they will be encouraged to rate you back. Before long, your Rapleaf profile will reveal you for the honest person that you are. After all, it is more profitable to be ethical.

Do you trust a website to tell you how much to trust someone who has had his friends email in to say how trustworthy he is so that he can make more money by appearing to be trusted?

Lessons from all this:

1. The best trust isn’t very transferable
2. Deep digital trust is a tradeoff for breadth; trusting you to sell me a book doesn’t mean I’ll introduce you to my daughter
3. Saying “I’m trustworthy” means you aren’t
4. As in the meatosphere, all is not what it seems.

The February Top 5

February had a number of popular posts, and if you didn’t have a chance to read them when they were up, this is a second opportunity. Please join in the conversation to any of these posts.

Number One The Best in the World. What traits do they seem to have in common?

Number Two Have You Stopped Beating Your Wife? Luck? Or hard work? Like the infamous question, it’s a false choice.

Number Three Trust Tip 32: Answering "Why Should We Choose You? It’s a question we all get asked at times. Here’s how to answer it.

Number Four Seductive Statistics. If you measure trust, and true and manage it through those measurements, will you kill it as the management obsession with loyalty did to that virtue?

Number Five Trust, Freedom and Democracy. It seems to be a tradition that every month, one of the top 6 is actually from the prior month. The question of whether narrowing the definition of freedom to economic freedom has damaged democracy seemed to have a lot of legs and kept pulling in readers long after it was posted.

Truth, Lies and Unicorns

Following is a synopsis of an article—"Truth, Lies and Unicorns"—that I just published with Andrea Howe of BossaNova Consulting Group in RainToday.com. You can read the complete article here.

What is lying?

On a conversational level, we take “lying” to mean speaking an untruth; overtly saying something that is not the case. Webster’s first definition is “to make an untrue statement with intent to deceive.” “To lie” is an active verb, with a connotation of intent.

But Webster’s second definition is far broader: “to create a false or misleading impression.” That definition includes lies of omission; it even extends beyond speech.

By that definition, business advisors (or for that matter, people) who don’t lie are like unicorns: not inconceivable, but pretty infrequent. In the same sense, Diogenes never found an honest man.

The article goes on to describe five common ways we lie to clients. It then explores just why it is that we lie. Our contention is that we fool ourselves.

The article examines the costs and benefits of lying, separating the purely utilitarian consequences from any ethical treatment. The article argues that when humans analyze lying as a purely utilitarian practice—we tend to get the analysis wrong.

Specifically, we underestimate the utilitarian value of truth-telling, and of the cost of disapproval if caught.

Meanwhile, we overestimate the benefit of the false perception our lie gets us, the cost of disapproval for truth-telling, and the probability of getting away with it.

On purely arithmetic grounds, then, lying is often accompanied by self-deception. It’s speculation on my part, but I suppose it has to do with over-estimating present pain vs. future good—a saber-tooth tiger in one’s face gets a lot of attention. It’s all fear-based in any case.

The article goes on to discuss the very real economic costs of lying, and to suggest some practical ways of doing a better job of truth-telling.

If the article interests you, you might also want to read Sissela Bok’s excellent book Lying: Moral Choice in Public and Private Life. She makes a wonderful case that, while “always tell the whole truth” may be an overly strict rule, it is far closer to correct than what we usually do.

Finally, as long as I’m self-promoting in this post, let me dump it all at once. I got a very nice book review of my book "Trust-based Selling" from Mike Schultz. Full disclosure: Mike is also publisher of RainToday.com, of which I’m a contributing editor. Mike was taken by the use of lists in the book.

There, all done.

The Opportunity Cost of Mistrust

How much money do you leave on the table by trusting customers?

Case 1.
David Maister
wrote about his service guarantee.  His precise words are, “If you are anything less than completely satisfied, then pay me only what you think the work was worth.”

One commenter on the posting said, “I like the post quite a bit, but I’m surprised that no one has commented on the first thing that came to my mind on the guarantee – those customers who will take the opportunity to stiff you on good work simply because of the opportunity via the guarantee."

David’s reply:

“It has never, ever happened to me. And if it did, I’d apply that old slogan "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me."
I don’t work for cheats or people I don’t trust. And if it ever happened by mistake, I wouldn’t be tempted to change the pricing policy to accomodate it! A pricing policy designed to accomodate SOBs sounds like a disaster to me.

Case 2.
I have myself on three occasions offered a complete refund of my fees because I felt the result wasn’t good enough. The client refused in each case and paid in full.

Case 3.
Joel Spolsky posts Seven Steps to Remarkable Service,

Step Seven is, “Greed Will Get You Nowhere,” wherein he talks about Fog Creek Software:

I asked what methods they found most effective for dealing with angry customers.

“Frankly,” they said, “we have pretty nice customers. We haven’t really had any angry customers.”

I thought the nature of working at a call center was dealing with angry people all day long.

“Nope. Our customers are nice.

“Here’s what I think. I think that our customers are nice because they’re not worried. They’re not worried because we have a ridiculously liberal return policy: “We don’t want your money if you’re not amazingly happy.”

“Customers know that they have nothing to fear. They have the power in the relationship. So they don’t get abusive.

“The no-questions-asked 90-day money back guarantee was one of the best decisions we ever made at Fog Creek. Try this: use Fog Creek Copilot for a full 24 hours, call up three months later and say, “hey guys, I need $5 for a cup of coffee. Give me back my money from that Copilot day pass,” and we’ll give it back to you.

Try calling on the 91st or 92nd or 203rd day. You’ll still get it back.  We really don’t want your money if you’re not satisfied. I’m pretty sure we’re running the only job listing service around that will refund your money just because your ad didn’t work. This is unheard of, but it means we get a lot more ad listings, because there’s nothing to lose.

Over the last six years or so, letting people return software has cost us 2%.

2%.

And you know what? Most customers pay with credit cards, and if we didn’t refund their money, a bunch of them would have called their bank. This is called a chargeback. They get their money back, we pay a chargeback fee, and if this happens too often, our processing fees go up.

Know what our chargeback rate is at Fog Creek?

0%.

"I’m not kidding.

"If we were tougher about offering refunds, the only thing we would possibly have done is pissed a few customers off, customers who would have ranted and whined on their blogs. We wouldn’t even have kept more of their money.

"I know of software companies who are very explicit on their web site that you are not entitled to a refund under any circumstances, but the truth is, if you call them up, they will eventually return your money because they know that if they don’t, your credit card company will. This is the worst of both worlds. You end up refunding the money anyway, and you don’t get to give potential customers the warm and fuzzy feeling of knowing Nothing Can Possibly Go Wrong, so they hesitate before buying.  Or they don’t buy at all.

How much money are you leaving on the table by not trusting your customers?